If there's one thing I've learned from observing people and living my own life it's that life comes with rules and that the saying "life isn't fair" is false. I mean in a way it's true but unless your winning at that particular moment you may be thinking that "life isn't fair." I'm not God, I don't know how life is really supposed to work. I do know however that there is a set of rules for life. They make sense but they're harder to understand because they're rules that people search for but refuse to hear.
Rule number two, our thoughts are what we judge ourselves upon but others judge us on our abilities and actions. This rule relates to the rule above, we think about ourselves. It's not necessarily bad, it's just our nature. For example you could tell yourself your a good person, maybe you are a good person, but sometimes others don't view us this way and these thoughts only help us sleep at night.
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See it isn't our intentions that count it's our actions. Or more so the question, "What can you do for the world?" Can you make a room full of people laugh? Or cry? Can you find the cure for cancer? How are your football skills?
This is a hard thing to stomach and it has a lot to do with the reason why people are so down now-a days. The way I see it though is when you do stomach the fact that you may never be on the big screen one day, or filthy rich, or on the top of the charts on iTunes; you'll be happier. Again that's hard to take in for some but it all comes down to you accepting you and the life around you. This doesn't mean you shouldn't have dreams and goals necessarily but don't always look toward the future, love your life now. Stop judging yourself by the way you look in a picture and appreciate the moment it captured. Does it really matter how many re-tweets you get? Live simply and you'll be happy. Be happy with your life and appreciate what you have and life will be simpler.
Rule number three is pretty simple; life is a competition. The job you have? Someone out there is trying to figure out a way to replace you with a new piece of technology. That trophy you're going for? So is everyone else on the team. We are all in competition with each other.
This rule is yet again hard to stomach because ever since we were little we were told that "we are our own people" and "you are only in competition with yourself." If you think about it most accomplishments are in relation to other people. You ran more miles, got more likes on Instagram, got the job. Congrats. This being said it's simply so much easier to tell your students the opposite of the truth.
"Just do your best."
Think about it if competition didn't matter we'd tell struggling families to just give up. No one would strive for anything; and we are fortunate enough to live in a world where we don't have to kill each other to stay alive. Yes we struggle, everything with life struggles, but with the modern world there are multiple opportunities and while not everyone competes directly it's enough for most to get by. I mean if you deny that competition exist you're lying to yourself, you'll lose if you deny competition.
In conclusion most of us get so distracted on our ideals of how life should work that we become blind to the way life does work. By accepting these rules life will get easier and you'll gain a better understanding of how the world works and furthermore your potential.
Hugs from Hayley xx